From my experience in losing my daughter and in my many, many conversations with grieving individuals, I have some advice. First I would ask you some questions as what is right for some might not be right for all.
First question: Is being “right” in your mind, more important than having peace of mind? Let me elaborate. Let’s say you had a big fight with you sibling, parent, child or friend. You’ve both dug in your heels, you each believe you are/were right. If an accident happened and you lost that person in your day-to-day life, do you feel you should have resolved it? Would it upset you to not be on good terms with this person? If so, is it more important you are right over moving beyond and rekindling the relationship? In the end, when it is our final breath, my understanding at death all we have is the love in our life. So I finish the first question after the comments and re-ask you is it more important? That has to be yours individually to answer, as you will sort that in your own grief.
Second question: Do you have any regrets? Some regrets could be out of your hands, like climbing Everest, due to cost or ability. What about the ones that aren’t out of your hands.
Next question: What would make you feel fulfilled? Volunteering to feed the homeless, helping veterans, the elderly or at an orphanage? Why don’t you find that moment, it might not be you yet many American’s spend an amazingly wasteful amount of time scrolling their social media. Find one day a month to just help, serve or give.
Final question: What is important to you regarding your legacy? Do you want to be remembered as always the smartest in the room, always right, always the best? Or, for people to say, “he/she changed my life”, “was with me in my darkest moment”, “lifted me when I most needed it”, or even “he/she just loved dearly their kindness illuminated the room.”
This is for you decide based on what is in your life. My responses are ever changing yet they are and will always be about creating change in my community.
Respond, ask questions or contact me if you’d like to chat. More to come.